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Helicopter Parenting: let free our child to develop their own



Helicopter Parenting or Cosseting Parent or simply Cosseter is modern aged parenting terminology.  This metaphor of parenting was appeared as early as 1969 in the best selling book  "Between Parents and Teenagers" by Dr. Haim Ginott. Who mentioned briefly about mother hovering to her child alike helicopter. Later on, Foster Cline and Jim Fay coined the term 'Helicopter Parenting' in the year 1990.  

Helicopter parenting means a parent who takes overprotective or excessive interest in the life of their child. Since there is no limit to how much people will do for their kid but still it requires a certain limit. Generational Demographer Neil Howe described helicopter parenting as the parenting style of Baby Boomer.

Helicopter parents attempt to ensure their children on a path to success by paving it for them. The rising of helicopter parenting coincides with two social shifts. The first was the comparatively booming economy of the 1990s with low unemployment and disposable income, The second was the public perception of increased child endangerment.

In China, the one-child policy has been an aggravating factor in the rise of helicopter parenting. In India due to the rise of the human population, urbanization and improve economic conditions may induce helicopter parenting large extent.

There is again two types of parenting 'Authoritarian' and 'Authoritative'. The most effective parenting according to study is authoritarian. They use reasoning to persuade the kid to do things that are good for them. Instead of strict obedience, they emphasize adaptability, problem solving and independence.

In India urbanization, broken joint family structure, social insecurity gradually being rise helicopter parenting. Thus parents are now more or less authoritative. They even like to overshadow their kids till they attained maturity and make the kid more dependent. 

We were not experienced authoritative parenting in our family. So we have enough space to develop our strength to hold the challenge. In contrast, I have seen some of my childhood friends who grow under very authoritative parents and now have an unsuccessful carrier.

So let free our child to develop their own. As a parent try to be authoritarian and give them ample scope to enjoy their life. Happy parenting 


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